Does God Grant Divine Divorce?
I am going write about a very sensitive subject. These precepts may tread upon what many consider to be sacred ground. My aim is not to hurt but to heal. I desire to minister, not to the sensibilities of the many, but to the hearts of the few who are wrestling with extremely difficult decisions.
God did not create holy cows
Within Christendom, there are “sacred cows” that one must not touch. If you dare re-examine certain doctrines you may be branded an apostate or heretic. Yet, far from being a method to keep the doctrines of God pure, excommunication is a control tactic. Heretical doctrines, causing untold misery, are mandated by people who care more for how their religion looks than what it actually does. Dogma ends up keeping people in bondage to age old lies introduced during the very darkest periods of church history.
However, let God be true and every man a liar. This taboo subject is where a great many people live, suffer, and sometimes even die. It is one of the main strong holds of demonic deception within the church and literally keeps millions bound in guilt, uncertainty, and shame. This subject is,
It is written,
“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
This scripture, perhaps more than any other passage, has been misused and abused by the leadership of the christian church. It has been employed to brow beat men and women to stay in marriages that mock the whole institution of “holy” matrimony. Pastors use this verse to elevate “keeping the bonds of marriage” to an essential part of salvation by telling men and women that “staying together,” whatever the cost is “a good testimony.”
However, while God “hates” divorce He also hates people not fulfilling His plan for their lives. God hates His people being so mired down in pain and suffering that He cannot use them to help save the human race. Essentially, God hates frustrating His will even more than He does broken marriages.
Legalism twists God’s blessings,
Here is a truth,
“Marriage was made for man and not man for marriage.”
Our Father made marriage to be a blessing, but if it becomes a cursing it misses the whole point. On the Sabbath, when you were not to do any work, Jesus’s disciples rolled kernels in their hands to eat as they passed through a certain corn field. Those that saw it, criticized them for “working” on the Sabbath. Jesus said, though,
“The sabbath was made for man, and not man for the sabbath:”
“Therefore the Son of man is Lord also of the sabbath.”
Jesus’s point is the purpose of the day of rest is not to make people go hungry. God designated the Sabbath to be a day of rest and blessing. If you cause people to go hungry on that day how is that a blessing or rest? Furthermore, Jesus is the Lord of the Sabbath so He can do whatever He wants with it.
Rash vows and unwise choices
Likewise, God made marriage to be a blessing for man. If it has become a cursing it ceases to fulfill God’s intention. Many people are in marriages where they suffer continually, yet, believing that God has joined them together they stay together no matter what. Jesus, though, is Lord of marriage also and He can do with it whatever He wants and sometimes this means divine divorce.
It is simple lunacy to believe that a decision to sleep with a man or woman, without God’s leading, means that God has joined you together. We are not living in the Old Testament. Two drunk people getting “married,” in the chapel of love does not a “holy” matrimony make. God does not honor what He does not author. When people marry outside the will of the Holy Spirit they not bound by Mark 10:9.
The Kingdom of God is within the hearts of men
Everything in the Church age is a matter of the heart. The only two outward cerimoneis Jesus gave us was communion and water baptism. Even the very kingdom of God is within the hearts of men. This means that marriage is of the heart also. Therefore these two maxims apply,
“People who have a level of love and lifetime commitment that warrants sexual intimacy do not sin when they have sexual relations.”
“People who do not have a level of love and lifetime commitment that warrants sexual intimacy sin when they have sexual relations.”
Are you committing adultery with your legal wife?
Many people who live together without a marriage license that God hath joined together. Conversely, there are people who possess a marriage license that God did not join together. In the first case, the man and woman are in right relationship to God and do not sin when they are intimate. In the second case, the man and woman are not in right relationship with God and sin when they are intimate. Therefore, some sin every time they have sex, even though legally married.
Look everyone, the doctrine of marriage has no clothes!
Though Christian doctrine refuses to realize these truths, believers, as evidence by the high divorce rate, do. People who divorce are accepted back into their respective congregations all the time. Amazingly, while church doctrine says one thing the leadership, faced with reality, does another. Therefore, it is their doctrine that needs fixing because they, by their very actions, acknowledge it is unreasonable.
Sometimes people divorce with the explicit or implicit consent of God. I call this, “divine divorce.” Most Christians do not take the step of divorce lightly. Even though there are strong cultural and religious prohibitions against breaking the bonds of holy matrimony, many believers do so because, all things considered, it is the right course of action. God, in effect, breaks apart man made unions of believers so that they can be free to marry as He intended. Unfortunately, many divorcee’s simply repeat the same mistake they made in the first place by marrying out of the will of God again. However, others actually do listen to God the second or third time around and marry a spouse of God’s choosing.
Jesus always spoke to the heart of the matter
Was Jesus against divorce? Certainly. However, the pharisees and religious people Jesus spoke to believed that you could simply say to a woman “I divorce thee” three times and she was out on the street. Therefore, instead of being a careful and agonizing over a decision to put away a wife, heartless men disposed of their wives without good reason.
Jesus pointed out that the two become one flesh, which speaks to children, and therefore because of the children people should stay together. There is nothing mystical about “one flesh.” The one flesh is the union of a man and women in the flesh of the offspring they produce. Only in a secondary sense is their a mystical bond in your inner man. By divorcing women so easily men caused their wives to commit adultery. Forcing women to remarry out of economic necessity, when God still considered them married, caused them commit adultery.
Munching on holy bread
There may be some that are having a “holy cow” right now and saying, “but what about the scripture!” It says this or that and because the Bible says it I believe it! To that sentiment I quote this,
“Now therefore what is under thine hand? give me five loaves of bread in mine hand, or what there is present. And the priest answered David, and said, There is no common bread under mine hand, but there is hallowed bread; if the young men have kept themselves at least from women. And David answered the priest, and said unto him, Of a truth women have been kept from us about these three days, since I came out, and the vessels of the young men are holy, and the bread is in a manner common, yea, though it were sanctified this day in the vessel. So the priest gave him hallowed bread: for there was no bread there but the shewbread, that was taken from before the Lord, to put hot bread in the day when it was taken away.”
1 Samuel 21:3-6
The law said that only priests could eat the bread consecrated to God. Yet David, a man after God’s own heart, took and ate of it. Why is this so? It is because the bread in the tabernacle represented life. To cause David and his men to perish for lack of bread was opposite of what shew bread represented. By eating of the shew bread David was fulfilling the real intent of what it represented.
Don’t remain married just for appearance sake
Similarly, while in general, marriage are held inviolate between a man and a woman, that is not always so. If a marriage mocks the reasons that God made marriage in the first place, then it is no marriage.
We live in an imperfect world ravaged by sin. Our marriages are no different. Most marriages are consummated without the blessing of God. God does not bless because He did not give His consent in the first place. Many marriages, even though they are not joined together by God, may be salvaged by our Father if the man and woman will give themselves wholly over the His Spirit. Others, though, are grave mistakes that will, in the end, cause so much damage and destruction, God simply breaks them apart by performing a divine divorce. This is not a judgement so much as a kindness even though, when it is taking place, it may be heartbreaking.
Divine Divorce is sometimes nessesary
In conclusion, God’s plan for our lives is more important than our earthly decisions. God is Lord of marriage and if we married out of His will He may perform a divine divorce. If our Father determines our choices will damage our generations He may break our marriages apart. When this happens divorce is not a sin and is, in fact, the will of God.
How often does divine divorce take place?
How often does this happen? No one knows, but I suspect it happens quite often. I believe that very few people marry in the will of God and with His permission. Judging by the divorce rate among believers, I would venture to guess, north of 50%.
You can, if you desire, use the truth about divine divorce to your own destruction. These are powerful truths borne by the Holy Spirit to correct fundamental errors in church dogma. If you divorce without the permission of the Holy Spirit you will sin. Using my words to justify sin will not absolve you from it. If, on the other hand, my words cause you to see God’s will for your life clearly, then be blessed. Take comfort, even though you are correcting a rash vow, you are still in the will of God.
This is prmarially why God hates divorce