Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: The Costs Of Unholy Matrimony
Breaking with the past
God shares truths which are difficult to accept in every generation. In Christ’s day it was simply proclaiming that he is the son of God. In Martin Luther’s day it was salvation by faith. Today God speaks truths which are equally as difficult to accept. In this essay I speak plainly about one of these challenging truths: Divine Divorce. I know that the consequences of these words are great, therefore I don’t take them lightly. However, as all believers before us, we must trust God and speak His word no matter what the consequences.
When God suddenly comes back to your temple
One of the side effects of Divine Love is Divine Divorce. Essentially when God comes to you, if you’re out-of-order in any area of your life, your life will change. This means “any” area, including your marriage. Divine Divorce is one of the most difficult aspects of the coming move of Tabernacles for it involves the break up of established marriages.
Jesus said,
“And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the money changers, and the seats of them that sold doves, And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves.”
Matthew 21:12,13
Why did Jesus act so forcefully? Were not the money changers just providing a service that pilgrims needed? Didn’t the religious rulers sanction and bless what they did? Yes, it was business as usual, yet, when God came to His temple, He cast out all those who sold, saying, ” My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves”.
God says,
“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?”
1 Corinthians 3:16
Like the money changers in Christ’s time, many people today use their temples (bodies) in ways God never intended. One of the most grievous mistakes a believer can make is marrying someone the Holy Spirit does not choose. While people think sins like smoking or drinking are bad, unholy matrimony is terrible in the eyes of our Lord because it does so much long-term damage. It is as if we have taken marriage and turned it into something God never meant it to be.
All people make mistakes, but marrying someone out of God’s will is a doozy. You skew or stop the plan of God in your life. You bear children that God did not plan for. Depending on the quality of the earthly relationship you have, your children may or may not be brought up in the fear and admonition of the Lord. They, in turn, effect the attitudes of their generations for years to come. Plus, if you are not in the will of your Father, the people you might have touched for His Kingdom are never affected as God planned.
Is your marriage holy matrimony?
We are all created with a natural and divine need to find a mate, however, we must allow God to join us properly. God commanded Adam and Eve to go forth, be fruitful and multiply because that was the most important thing for them to do. However, if there is a divine mate for us, and we do not marry according to God’s leading, our grave mistake is not easily undone.
Putting away mates, whether through mutual agreement or through irreconcilable differences, is never an easy process. Many times, separating your lives can be extremely chaotic and emotionally draining. If there are children in the picture the challenges are even greater. Though none of these consequences are God’s fault, nevertheless, breaking up is hard to do.
It is our personal responsibility to be led by God’s Spirit
If separation is God’s will, you must allow the Holy Spirit to determine how and when to proceed with a dissolution. During this time we must resist the urge take matters into our own hands. Trying to do something spiritual through natural minds only increases the hardship of breaking up. Ideally, both of you realize the truth and go your separate ways amicably. This is best for all concerned, even any children, because they realize mommy and daddy don’t hate each other.
Unfortunately, given the worldly mindset of some, an antagonistic divorce is sometimes unavoidable. In these cases you proceed prayerfully, only taking actions at the time and in the ways God mandates. Again, putting your hand to the process, like Uzziah did, only makes matters worse. If you allow God to lead and guide you He can thread the needle of your marital dissolution in such a way as to minimize the damage.
In the end, every one of us must trust and obey God’s voice. This can be and often is very different from obeying the churches teachings. The clergy, for mainly selfish reasons, want you to remain in your marriages at all costs. They even call earthly vows “Holy Matrimony” to reinforce their authority. Even if ministers realize God is breaking up a marriage, they saying nothing. Therefore, don’t rely on your clergyman’s opinions about your marriage, listen to God for yourself.
Breaking up is hard to do
Finally, breaking up a marriage is an intensely personal matter between you, your mate, and your Lord. Everyone will have an opinion, but only God’s desires really matter. Changing course, when you have traveled down a wrong path for a long time, costs a lot. Sometimes God must bring you back to absolute zero so that you can begin again. However, no matter how difficult the adjustment is, it is better to be on the path God chooses for you with nothing than that to end up far away from Him with everything.
Dear Connections,
No matter what you call Divine Unions, one thing is clear: they are not of this world. The love between two people as they submit to the will of God transcends time and space. For most, this is a new experience.
Many denominations make the grave mistake of trying to pin down everything God says in scripture until there is no room left for His current word. They do this, extensively, because they are trying to “protect” the people from false messiahs and their error. Unhappily, what often happens is that they are so afraid of the bad that they cannot accept the new. In the first century, there were many false prophets, but eventually John the Baptist came. Many in that day came to Jerusalem claiming to be something, but eventually Christ appeared.
New truth is not old truth; therefore, it has not been seen before. To know if what people speak is correct you must be Spirit led. God’s Spirit inside you bears witness to the Holy Spirit in other. For myself, I no longer judge anything by my natural mind. I know my Father’s voice and I know immediately by the Spirit if what another says is His word; whether found in the Bible or not. I know that mpt everyone is in that place yet, but we all need to be.
When you hear the voice of God is sounds like your good shepherd. However, if what I speak or anyone else says is not the voice of your heavenly Father do not heed it. Whereas in times pass people could determine spiritual matters with their natural minds, in our day and age it is no longer sufficient to do so. You either know by the Holy Spirit or you don’t: anything else is deception.
People come upon this site for two reasons: blessing or judgement. If you are lead here by His Spirit because you are at a place where you are receptive to these truths, then it is a blessing. If, however, you come it only to reject and ridicule then this site is a definitely judgement. For to know the truth plainly and reject it is a serious matter indeed.
There is always a temptation to pull back and go the “safe route”. People often claim that being in the middle of the road is a blessing, However, it is not. Jesus says,
“And unto the angel of the church of the Laodiceans write; These things saith the Amen, the faithful and true witness, the beginning of the creation of God; I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.”
Revelation 3:14-16
If you are going to be a Christian my best advice for you is to FULLY commit. If you are going to be a heathen then eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow you die. In the coming days, we will not be able to be remain on the side lines. My heart is that as many as possible make heaven their eternal home. There is a great falling away and nothing can prevent that for God has already seen it. However, whether you are in it or not is largely up to you. If you want to devote everything you have to God and follow Jesus then there is no delusion strong enough to be take you out of your Fathers hand. You are the Elect of God.
My main objection to ministers is that many are not preparing their people for the eventuality that is Antichrist. Instead of training their people to hear God’s voice for themselves, they teach them to trust in what they say. Most of these ministers will, in fact, be the first ones to embrace that man of sin because he embodies everything they believe in. However, the Elect owe allegiance to no one but God Himself. Here is my stand,
“If I hear my Fathers voice speaking through you I will listen. If I do not hear my Fathers voice speaking through you, I will not hear a word you say.”
God bless,
Michael