Eroticism, Sensuality And Christian Sexuality
Caution:
In this essay, I write about a topic that is considered taboo in Christianity. If frank discussions of intimacy bother you, please do not continue reading.
We are both embarrassed and fascinated by eroticism. On one hand, many view sensuality as something to avoid, but on the other hand, we are irresistibly drawn to it. For most, the only appropriate place to express our sexuality is behind closed-doors in the dark. Though some feel differently, in the main, the clergy abhors Christian Sexuality.
All things created for His pleasure
God created eroticism and sensuality in order to fulfill His desires. What most Christians do not realize about their sexuality is that, like everything else, it is created for His pleasure. While making love we experience joy, excitement, and satisfaction, but only as a consequence of doing His will. When we have sex outside of God’s will, we experience guilt, shame and emptiness.
The problem with most sexual experiences is that they are usually focused on ourselves. It’s all about our pleasure, our satisfaction, our ego. Moreover, many take what God created very good and use it to commit sin. All sexual sin is, in its may forms, is simply inappropriate use of what God created.
Why did God create us to be so sensual?
Why did God create us full of desire and longing to be united with a Divine Mate? Many, not knowing God nor His power, reduce sexual expression to simple lust. Hollywood portrays many sexual acts as mere animal passion, devoid of love or affection. However, what is God’s true purpose for Christian sexuality?
Question: how does God have children?
Answer: through us
God says,
“I am the Lord, and there is none else, there is no God beside me: I girded thee, though thou hast not known me: That they may know from the rising of the sun, and from the west, that there is none beside me. I am the Lord, and there is none else.”
Isaiah 45, 5,6
The truth is that God made Christian sexuality so that we would mate with each other and Him. God wants to bring forth after His kind. Since there cannot be another God beside YHWH, our Father manifests His nature through us. As we bear children and they express His image, they become the children of the Most High.
Christian sexuality and why we mate
When we mate, if done properly, YHWH is present. As we become aroused our bodies prepare for love-making and our spirits prepare to unite with our King during intercourse. Our spirits, which are located in our reproductive regions, unfold as we become aroused. When a woman shakes it is often times a reaction to her spirit emerging. As we touch, caress, and experience pleasure, God manifests in and through us to prepare a place for conception.
Conception is not just a physical act, it is a profound spiritual creation. While our bodies provide the materials to make another body, only God can create an eternal soul and spirit. Therefore, the function of eroticism and sensuality during love-making is to prepare the woman and the man to conceive “with God” an eternal soul. To the extent that we allow God to have His way during this miracle of procreation, our children literally become the children of God.
Sexual sin really messes people up
Viewed from this perspective, it is easy to see why YHWH is against fornication and adultery. Sexual sin debases and defiles everything God made very good. Rape, incest, and every other form of sexual abuse is a result of the Devil’s rage. Lucifer, that fallen wife of the Most High, hates everything about Holy Intimacy and tries to ruin it as much as possible. Thus, those who follow her conform to her demonic desires to hurt and destroy us in these areas.
God desires to heal you in every area
Instead of running away from our sexuality, why not embrace holy intimacy as God intended? We cannot deny what God made us to be, nor should we. What we do need to accomplish is to change our perspective as to what sex is all about. Once we understand, through God’s Spirit, that sexuality is about holy intimacy and ultimately holy consummation, then we can begin to view our desires from the proper perspective.
As the sons and daughters of God, Christian sexuality honors and pleases Him as we love each other. When a woman understands that giving her body to her lover worships and pleasures her Creator also, she yeilds herself with confidence and abandon. A man, who knows that loving his woman with tenderness, affection, and skill is, in fact, loving God above, desires to fulfil his divine role too.
Become the Bride of Christ
In the end, yielding to Holy Intimacy, in all it’s many forms, makes everyone happy and pleases God immensely. Christian sexuality, practicied the way God intended, causes the world to breathe a sigh of relief. In fact, Paul says,
“For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. For the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.”
Romans 8:18,19
As the Bride of Christ our destiny is Holy Consummation. No one who aspires to be God’s wife can deny this central truth. It is time to love each other as God desires and love our Lord through each other with every fibre of our beings. Amen.
Beloved,
One thing I am told I should mention is that sex is not just for procreation. Though that is one possible outcome of it, making love is its own complete type of worship in and of itself. What sex does is provide the atmosphere and fertile ground for God to plant His seed in us in our season. At His discretion, He causes life to spring forth from within us. In the meantime, though, love God and each other as often and as completely as you desire.
As always, “Go forth, be fruitful, and multiply”.
God bless,
Michael
Beloved,
Since the fall of mankind in the Garden of Eden, shame is firmly rooted in the whole human race. We are fundamentally ashamed of ourselves and most of us do not understand why. One of the reasons I believe God is leading me to talk about Christian sexuality is to explain what is going on and how to overcome our dishonor.
We cannot properly love God or each other if we are shame based. If our attitudes towards affection and sexuality are skewed, it is not possible to open up and be what God desires of His Bride. Thought this is hard to deal with, it is vital to allow our Lord to heal us in this area.
Affection spans a great deal of different areas and sexuality is only one of them. However, our sexuality (for adults) is central to who we are. In fact, this is such a fundamental area in our lives, that it affects all other areas. Therefore, God is emphasizing this portion of our lives in order to help correct and heal us in all areas.
God bless,
Michael